So I am up pretty late. Here in bed wishing for sleep, listening to Dave Mathews
Grave Digger and I couldn't keep my mind on the song. All I could think about was Arlington National Cemetery, moreover, a trip we, as children were
forced to take there.
My Uncle and Father piled us into the car: Mom, Tante (Aunt Maureen), three sisters and 3 cousins. We were surely going to hate this trip. Why couldn't we stay home and ride bikes or play in the basement? Why do we have to go to D.C. and see museums and boring crap? Two clarifying statements from my Father ended the gripe session: "Shut up. Get in the car"
The trip down I-95 to the D.C. Beltway and into the Heart of D.C. lasted long enough for us to hear three complete names called out in threat, one bout of retching from car sickness and 15 bottles of beer taken down and passed around. It was cold out.
We spent most of the day walking around looking through the Smithsonian Museums. Remember being less impressed with the Hope Diamond as I was with my cousin Keith's plea upon gazing his eyes on it.
"'Hope' we get out of here before this old guy in line farts again!". Keith always had a knack for being near the passage of gas - at least I always thought he was extremely unlucky that way. Perseption could be skewed? Be that as it may, I broke up laughing.
As I remember it, going to Arlington was a last-minute idea. One that was met with groans. Groans were met with McDonalds, and we were off.
My memory of getting there and parking don't exist. As we were leaving downtown D.C. the window in my Uncle's land-yacht of a station wagon broke - in the down position. I sat with a night-watchmen cap and a blanket next to the window. I froze. It was cold.
Out of the wind of the moving car we made it to the Cemetery. I remember moving past the statues and the visitor center where my Mother and Aunt pulled maps and information pamphlets. I remember us, the kids, growing quiet as we looked out across the path to the endless rows of white tombstones. Turning, more grave markers. Plain white marble with black writing. Couldn't begin to read them. Crosses, some Stars of David. Carefully placed flowers. A medal sitting on top of one marker - alone.
It was cold. The Cemetery was cold. It made a car full of loud, arguing kids come to the grips with what it takes to be free, even if we didn't know what it was doing.
This summer I am taking my kids to the Smithsonian and Arlington. I want them to see. I want them to know what it means to be free. What it takes. The ultimate sacrifice. I want them to know the costs of war. Why it is important to help others be free, be in charge of their government. It is important for our kids to know that brave men and women gave up life for them. For me. For us all. Even if you don't like it. You are allowed to not like it only because it exists.
Thank you to the U.S. Armed Forces.